Donny's Ramblings

Being Single

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It’s very difficult.

And very nice.

And very difficult.

And very nice.

Yep, that about covers it. One day I wake up feeling lonely. The next I wake up loving my singleness.

I miss small things I’ve always taken for granted. Like, for instance, having someone to tell about things that amuse me. I don’t watch TV anymore, but TV is a perfect illustration of what I’m talking about.

Let’s say you’re watching a program while sitting beside the love of your life. Something amuses you. You laugh, and glance over at her to see if she was as amused as you were. She rolls her eyes because THAT was just too juvenile to deserve laughter, ya dork!

When you’re single, who can you glance at? Who can join you in the moment?

I never realized what an intimate connection it is to simply have someone to look at.

It’s romantic.

And speaking of the “R” word… romance, to me, has nothing to do with flowers or gifts. It has everything to do with intimate connections, which exist on multiple levels and aren’t always obvious.

A glance.

A “taste this, babe”.

A “that was such a good song! It made my eyes leak!”

You’re driving down the road and a new song comes on that you’ve never heard before. Your heart’s conquerer is in the passenger seat listening as well. The words move you. You say something about it, and the two of you discover something new about each other, simply by the way you react to a song.

When you’re single, it’s just not the same to call your best friend John to explain how you feel.

I don’t miss sex all that much, to be honest with you. I’m not saying I’ve lost my desire, it’s just that it’s not as important to me as other things.

Like having someone to READ to.

Like having someone sitting in the passenger seat for a trip up Highway 70 to Quincy.

Like hearing laughter at something the rest of the world would think was really dumb.

Like watching her try to stay annoyed while you try to make up for some minor idiocy by making a fool of yourself, just to get her to laugh.

Nothing major, you see. Just minor things. Just “couple” things.

Just romantic things.

Romance. Ah, how I miss ye!

4 thoughts on “Being Single

  1. i feel the same as you at times but its just some of what we go thru as single christains, and i think if you had a good friend for a room mate you would have so much fun, i have had few in my day and the most fun had was with people who i was really in like mind with,we would go eat together ,go to the show,talk about the lord,it was real fun, i miss it…..

  2. i feel the same as you at times but its just some of what we go thru as single christains, and i think if you had a good friend for a room mate you would have so much fun, i have had few in my day and the most fun had was with people who i was really in like mind with,we would go eat together ,go to the show,talk about the lord,it was real fun, i miss it…..

  3. Donny,
    This is something that I’ve had to deal with more times than one. It’s extremely difficult, I know. I just want to encourage you, I know that you can get past these feelings. I’m going through the same thing right now. Instead of enjoying the little things with a woman, I have to know that God cares about the little things as much as the next person, even more so! He loves us, He loves you and He wants you to look to HIM for everything. It sounds like such a lofty idea… That God can comfort you in all things, including feelings of lonliness, missing romance, etc. But it’s true. Only His water can quench your thirst. Only His love can EVER satisfy our longing for another. I know that you know this. This is just a little reminder. Take care of yourself.

  4. Donny,
    This is something that I’ve had to deal with more times than one. It’s extremely difficult, I know. I just want to encourage you, I know that you can get past these feelings. I’m going through the same thing right now. Instead of enjoying the little things with a woman, I have to know that God cares about the little things as much as the next person, even more so! He loves us, He loves you and He wants you to look to HIM for everything. It sounds like such a lofty idea… That God can comfort you in all things, including feelings of lonliness, missing romance, etc. But it’s true. Only His water can quench your thirst. Only His love can EVER satisfy our longing for another. I know that you know this. This is just a little reminder. Take care of yourself.

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