Question just received via email:
I just had the privilege of reading the blog on your site about child rearing – Spare the rod, Spoil the child. Very interesting indeed!
My question to you a year later: Do you still think the same about spanking your child? I’m just curious where you stand today. There were good points on both sides of the issue.
Hope you have the time to respond.
I’ve always felt that way, even while producing porn. I still have never once spanked my son, nor raised my voice to him.
I just realized, after sending that reply, that there was one time when I swatted him very lightly. So lightly, in fact, that immediately after I did it he said, “Oh look, Daddy, a car!”
I believe that was in the Spring of 2004, which would have made him 4 (and a half, dad).
So… one swat in 8 years. Never once have I raised my voice to him, however. There has never been a need. It may take more work, but getting down on my knees at eye level and TALKING to him has always been effective.