Donny's Ramblings


Ted Haggard and Christian Response

Last night I traveled to Yuba City to attend a service where Craig Gross from XXXChurch was speaking on pornography. While there I spoke with a Pastor from a church in Sacramento. Amongst many other things, we discussed Ted Haggard. That discussion is what prompted this blog entry.

Why is it that when a Christian messes up we respond with the love of Christ, yet when sinners mess up we talk about the quick trip to hell they’ll be receiving? Jesus always did the opposite – he held Christians to a higher standard and provided grace to sinners. Wouldn’t it be great if we began to show God’s grace to all sinners, regardless of what they’ve done? Wouldn’t it be great if we could all remember the word “Christian” is supposed to mean “like Christ”, and that to uphold our position as Christians we actually need to love people, rather than judging them so harshly?

Even if it was just “a massage” as Ted claims, you can bet it resulted in a “happy ending”. Does he think he’s kidding anyone by trying to downplay his gay tendencies? While there will be inevitable consequences for his actions, I have to say that I am not overly bothered by his “sin”. I have no problem instantly forgiving that sin. My heart goes out to him and his family. The part of his story that annoys me most is the simple fact that he had the balls to so vocally oppose gay marriage while partaking in gay activities. That level of hypocrisy harms the world’s perception of every Christian.

The response I’ve heard from most church leaders has been one of love for Ted. What a great day it would be if those same people responded with kindness for Democrats who face some moral failure. How nice would it have been if President Clinton had received the same loving understanding from the Christian community that Ted Haggard has received?

If we, as Christians, begin responding to our friends, neighbors and sinful politicians with the same love so many are showing Ted Haggard right now the world will truly be changed, don’t you think?


Controversial Already? Sorry, I Have to Do It.

I made many friends and acquaintances during my years in the porn business. Several of said people happened to be gay. This particular group of people, in my opinion, are amongst those most hurt by Christians.

Once again people, being a “Christian” means you’re supposed to be “like Christ”. Did HE ever once judge anyone for their sexual preferences?

Before I go any further let me explain why this has come up today. If you’ve ever posted on message boards you’re probably aware that most of those who participate use a nickname. On one of the boards I’ve been posting on for more than 4 years there is a man who uses the nickname “BoyAlley” and refers to himself as “Teh BoyAlley”.

I have a lot of love and respect for this man. He has raised a lot of money for charity. He’s a sensitive person who is very funny. He seems to have a heart of gold. But, understandably, he feels gay people are persecuted by Christians. When someone asked me on that message board if my newfound Christianity would affect how I feel about “Teh BoyAlley”, I responded with this:

Why would I feel any differently about teh Boy Alley? He is still teh sexy!

Seriously, don’t lump me into the preconceived notions you may have about Christians.

Why is it that I have to repeat, over and over and over again, that I’m not trying to change what anyone else does with their life?

PS: Feel free to quote all the Leviticus scriptures you want, Mr. Asian Diva whatever dude. Tell me how I’m hypocritical for x, y or z.

In that same thread, “Teh BoyAlley” wrote:

I’ll just say, that Teh BoyAlley has donated thousands and thouands and thousands of dollars over the years to organizations that exist to help defend myself, my partner of 8 years, and millions of other homosexuals, from the FUCKING GOD DAMN HORSE SHIT that Jebus fucking jackasses try to legislate down our throats and up our asses.

Christians can go on and on about how “they don’t judge people” and how they’re “entitled to their beliefs”, but at the end of the day, THEY’RE THE ONES forcing their fucked up world views on people like my partner and myself.

My opinion is that I have no right to judge anyone. I’m just going to love everyone to the best of my ability. And I oppose legislating how others act in their bedroom. Seriously, why is that my business?

“BoyAlley”, I love you man! And I’m going to do everything in my power to try to be a representative of what a true Christian should be. I know others claim to be non-judgemental and then turn around and try to force their beliefs down your throat. I promise I will do everything in my power to never do that to you. It is my job to show you the love that Jesus would show you. That is a big job and a big challenge. I hope I can live up to it.